I feel really inadequate…at a lot of things. And this past week, Inadequacy just won’t leave me alone.
Now, I might be okay being inadequate at a few things if Inadequacy’s sister Perfection wasn’t standing right there making it worse.
See Inadequacy and Perfection are identical twins.
I try to tell them to go away and to remind myself: “It’s okay to not be okay.” “You won’t please everyone.” And “80% is good enough.” But it’s hella hard.
They’re always looking over my shoulder critiqueing everything I have done in the past, do currently, and want to do in the future.
It’s so frustrating! I just want to be genuine and candid. I want to bring my potential into the world, but Inadequacy yells at me, “You will never be good enough!” And Perfection whispers, “It’s true.”
It’s hard not to listen to them.
More often than I care to admit, their brother Anxiety will get in on the tormenting too. See it’s all fun and games for these three.
Anxiety will add fuel to the fire by telling me, “You try to hide all of your inadequacies and imperfections, but they all know. You walk around with them screaming like a neon light on a dark night.”
Anxiety, he’s the cruelest of them all.
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This doesn’t need to be the case.
Positive Self Talk, Meditation Techniques, Honest Communication, and Spending time with Inadequacy, Perfection, and Anxiety to hear them out, smile, and say, “I appreciate what you have to say, but it doesn’t fit with my personal values and truth,” are all great ways to combat their noise and move on with your life.
And if they still won’t leave you alone…
Tell them to “F off” in the most ladylike way possible.